Ann Baker

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Queen With a Capital Q!

2024-03-01 16:34:34

Ladies! It is time to pick up your crowns. Does everybody have them on? Does everyone have them straight? OK! Good! Let’s get started. This week, I would like to talk about who it is who is uniquely you. You are a queen. It is my intention to help you realize this so stick around. We all have a purpose on this planet. We all have a unique life path we all have our passions our likes and our dislikes we all have our own unique experiences, and it is where all of this intersects that we find the core of who we are why we're here and what we should be doing - It is our uniqueness. So why then do I say, “Ich bin die Koenigin”? Why do I call myself the Queen (Capital Q)? Is it because I have a rather large ego? I do not. Is it because I sit on millions of dollars & a gold throne? I do not. Was I a prom queen or a homecoming queen or a pageant queen at any point? Nope! I believe the title Queen (Capital Q) cannot be given, not to a true Queen. The title Queen is a title earned. She must be a warrior. She must have been around the block a few times. She must have compassion in her heart. A sensible, strategic mind. And have crawled her way through the worst situations that this world can offer and still be able to stand strong and hold her head high. She must be able to still see a vision for her life and move forward. And - she must be willing to lead others toward their destinies as well. She must be kind and loving and caring and thoughtful. She must be brave and willing to fight for what needs to be fought for while knowing what is not worth the time nor the effort. She must be willing to accept the people in her life who are there to help her learn or she's to help them learn and let the rest go. What I have learned in my 50 years on this planet is that life isn't fair therefore it is not balanced. And those who try to maintain a balanced life or look for fairness in every situation are going to continue to be disappointed. No, this life is an opportunity for all of us to learn lessons. Lessons of love, strength, fortitude, grit, resilience. And, along the way in this life - if we are lucky -we have some moments of joy too with beautiful people. These are souls who cross our paths and walk with us. Some of them support us. Some of them we support but there is happiness and there's joy and there's pleasure in it too. At any given time, we have an imbalance. This is true. We either have a lot of pleasure and joy that we never want to end, or we have frustration, temptation, and hardship that we think will never end. A Queen (Capital Q) holds the wisdom that no matter the situation good or bad this too shall pass, and we must have the foresight to plan accordingly to be flexible and adaptable to be kind and loving. The Queen must also understand there is no room for judgment. Leave the judging to God. Our job is to just love each other and that's it. Some may ask, Ann Baker, how can you say that after everything you've been through? (stories for another day) How can you after all the horrible things that have happened the traps the abuse and all the bad decisions? Yes, some of the bad things that happened to me were a direct result of my bad decisions. I either didn't listen or I didn't think it through, or I wasn't experienced enough, or I was impatient. I am a human being and I come with all the imperfections of a human being. You do too! And that I the great news! NONE OF US HAVE TO BE PERFECT!!! We cannot be by design. I've learned & grown from those mistakes, and I know you have and will too. And we will make more! In those moments, we straighten our crown, love the people around us and ourselves and move forward. Some ask how I can make this type of position with just love and help and happiness and kindness knowing what a horrible place this world is. To that I say some parts of it are horrible. I'm not going to deny that, and I can't change that, but there is so much good in this world. I have seen it and I have experienced it. Strangers have come out of the blue to help me in so many situations. Opportunities and resources have jumped off the page sometimes literally while I've been posting or typing. Friends I have not spoken with in 30 years suddenly reappear in my life and they joined the happiness that we shared as children. We continue like time never ever existed and now we help each other out. Forgiveness is a key factor in being a Queen. Kindness, generosity, and love are a big part of it. Understanding what works and doesn't work, moving forward no matter what and not staying stuck are keys to all of this. I spent 6 years literally sleeping 18 hours a day and sitting on a sofa in a Florida Condo thinking or reading as I waited to die from Mast Cell Disease. All while my husband worked his dream as an expat in Europe and my children found their places in their respective fields and nurtured relationships and marriages 1200 miles away. I was alone. My best friends were my 8 doctors I met with every month (some weekly). I had a lot of time to think. Time to think about all I survived since birth and conquered just to die alone like this. What was the purpose? When you feel the end is near, you prepare. One day, a day I will share another time, I decided that I was finished with preparing to die. I decided to prepare to live. That is when I was reborn, and a mind shift occurred. I realized I was stuck because I partially allowed this to happen. I cannot do anything about my mutated DNA. I hope CRSPR will at some point soon, but that is out of my hands. I can control how I react to these situations. A warrior my entire life. Fighting and warring for my place in this world and I lay down my arms over an illness? That was not me. So, I pulled out of it. I took back my power. Don't allow yourself to stay stuck in whatever occurred 5 minutes, 5 days or 5 years ago. That is now history (or Her-story or YOUR-story). The past is the past. It is over. So, I picked up my crown and put it back on. That day was a new day full of hope and opportunity. Fast forward a year and a half later, and I can say I move forward. I can say I look at the beauty of the world and the love that's in it and that view picks me up and moves me toward the next step on this path. Those steps give me hope. I always say to my children, if I wake up that means God has a plan for me that day there is somebody who needs my help or a blessing. So, I get up. My life here isn't over yet. That hope and faith in God the creator almighty motivates me to get up straighten my crown and rule. So, ladies my challenge to you through this blog is that you do the same. It is practice. It's a mindset change. It is a new way of living, and it is beautiful. We discard what no longer serves us. We move forward with trust and love and knowing that we are Queens (Capital Q). I will end this the way I started. Ladies! Pick up those crowns and put them on! Ich bin die Koenigin! And so are you beautiful souls. Warmly yours, I send love. Ann Thank you for taking the time to read this to the end. If you would please, share this article with as many people as you feel will benefit. Sharing would help me out incredibly to get my messaging across to as many people as possible. Feel free to reach out to me you're my contact form. Follow my modeling work on Instagram at @AnnBakerModel. I look forward to sharing with each of you next week. Enjoy yourselves and have a marvelous week. www.Ann-Baker.com Instagram @AnnBakerModel Photographer: Studio 1, Miami